PCD has been wondering for a while......would it be ok to hire help? i mean ok in the sense of feeling comfortable whenever this person has something to do. i struggle with the idea of a "nanny" because i'm maniacal about who is around my kid. and even tho a nanny would free up a lot of my time to do things quickly and quietly, i would be a nervous wreck. plus, i wouldn't want baby to start looking to the nanny before me when in need of something. even tho it takes me probably twice or three times as long to complete something with baby in tow, i don't think i could relax knowing that she was in someone else's care...
...but is this realistic? i don't think so. eventually, SOMEDAY, someone else will be responsible for her. i see nannies with other people's kids all the time! so much so that people ask me frequently if my kid is actually mine. (this happened repeatedly last week when we were at adventure-land). what if i am very ill? what if there is an event where me and hubby are attending and my mum isn't available? even the thought of a babysitter freaks me out! so i am wondering, should i have some occassional "help" that could slowly ease me into the idea of trusting another soul to look after baby?
it's different having help to do other things. cleaning, cooking or errand-time is a form of trusting people in your personal space. that's a huge hurdle as well. but in all honesty, if something were to go wrong in that arena, nine times out of ten, it would be something material that would suffer and could probably be replaced. but my baby? *gasp* and i won't even get started of all of the stories of abuse that haunt me...hidden cameras catching people doing monstrous things or NO cameras and your kid 's behavior changing because of some shady goings-on.
***WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON HIRED HELP?? WHAT ABOUT IN REGARDS TO CHILDREN?***