Truth Hurts....

so since we shined the light on pantstasia this week, i guess someone SOMEWHERE had to try and drudge something up on obama (the juice parts are in red).....

CHICAGO - Sen. Barack Obama sought Thursday night to extinguish a burgeoning controversy over another Chicago minister who supports him, denouncing the comments of a Catholic priest who said “a whole lot of white people [are] crying” because a black man was within reach of the Democratic presidential nomination.
The remarks by the Rev. Michael Pfleger, a white minister known as “Chicago’s renegade priest” for his liberal social activism in the city’s black community, came from the pulpit of Trinity United Church of Christ, the same church where sermons by the Rev. Jeremiah Wright came under scrutiny from critics who called them anti-American and racially divisive.
Pfleger, pastor of predominantly black St. Sabina’s Catholic Church, who fiercely defended Wright even as Obama eventually rejected his support, sounded similar themes Sunday in a guest sermon at Wright’s church.

Saying he was seeking to “expose white entitlement and supremacy wherever it raises its head,” Pfleger mocked Sen. Hillary Rodham Clinton of New York for appearing to weep at a campaign appearance before the New Hampshire primary in January, saying she was crying because “there’s a black man stealing my show.”
“She always thought, ‘This is mine. I’m Bill’s wife, I’m white and this is mine,’” Pfleger said in his fiery sermon.
As the racially mixed congregation responded “Amen!” and “Yes, sir!” Pfleger pretended to cry and shouted: “And then out of nowhere came him, Barack Obama. And she said: ‘Damn! Where did you come from?! I’m white! I’m entitled! There’s a black man stealing my show!’
“She wasn’t the only one crying!” he said. “There was a whole a lot of white people crying!”
Then, sensing that he may have gone too far, Pfleger added: “I’m sorry. I don’t want to get you in any more trouble. The live streaming [video] just went out again.”

sooooooo, what about this is so troubling to some? hmmmmmmmmm, i wonder! and regardless, i have YET to understand the need to try and hold obama's feet to the fire for things OTHER people say....

***THOUGHTS!?!***

What Do You Do When...

....a public figure you or your children enjoy do something inappropriate? i know we are all human and make mistakes....but there is something about public figures that bothers me....while a lot of them deny wanting to be role models, the truth is, it comes with the territory so you have to take the good with the bad (if being a role model is considered bad). personally i don't think it's a bad deal...you get paid millions of dollars to have your face flung everywhere. you are thrust into the public....so to ask people not to fully observe what you do is silly.

anyhoo, i ask this because i am tired of the war going on over r. kelly and hanna montana. once r. kelly was even suspected of having sex with a child, i could no longer shake my bootay to his songs. no, i don't know him and vice versa...but in my heart of hearts, that is a serious crime and there seemed to be some pretty damning evidence to support this claim. and even tho it took 6-7 years to put him on trial, it just never was the same. now, if for some reason he is cleared of these charges 100%, then cool. until then, the fact that you are even associated with such filth is something i cannot support.

now on to hanna montana...my baby is a little too young to undertsand the hysteria surrounding this ordinary looking girl who wears a blond wig and sings rock songs. BUT there are MANY little girls who are enamored with her. and it seems as if this 15 years old child has a problem acting and looking 15....in the past year, she has been under fire at LEAST 4 times for inappropriate pictures and looks.

if my kid DID love hanna montana, it'd be a problem. i cannot contribute to her soon-to-be billion dollar empire when she is insisting on being the next britney spears. hey, to each his own! do what you do! but neither me nor mine will support inappropriate behavior...even when you are on your time. little kids do not understand that you were at home just "playing." they just see hanna montana.

(some) adults are not bothered by the looming possibility of r. being a disgusting pedophile because they like his tunes (lest we forget his marriage to aaliyah at 15 yeras of age)....but with me, it's all or nothing. and because you are a public figure, even what you do off stage is our "business", for lack of a better word.

think of it this way......if you had a great friend, and it was discovered they had a sex tape with a child, urinating on them and such...would you still have them over for tea and crumpets? at least until they were cleared of all charges? would you cotinue to let your kids go play at their house?

or if your kid had a friend that was as sweet as cherry pie, yet dressed like a slut, always bearing her mini-breasts and bra and taking pictures in her panties, laying in beds with boys along with locking tongues with girlfriends, would you continue to let your child have sleepovers with them? hmmmmmmmmmmmm....

***PLEASE SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS ONE....***

She Should Lick A Porcupine

what is going on when PANTSUIT can get away with continuously making remarks like these? PLEASE don't let me run up on this hussy...cuz a sister might have to come out of her heels for this one!

(please watch)







OH! but the plot thickens! this skeez took it even further....please watch!







of course, my boy keith olbermann threw his two cents into the ring (if you can't watch anything else, watch from the 7:15 minute mark until the end...he whooped her silly on this one-LOVES HIM!)....







***PLEASE SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS!!!***

Dude Looks Like A Lady

lol...watch this....
* i nearly died at the 2:50 mark...i'm silly*





i wonder, do you see something wrong with this? does it bother you to see men dressed as women playing stereotypical roles time and time again? like martin, tyler perry, ricky smiley & eddie murphy...or those who do voice jobs like steve harvey and his sister o'dell impression...


i've heard both sides of the argument about why when they do dress as women, the always seem to portray these loud, inappropriate, most times unfit and usually overly sassy broads? then i've heard thats its all in good fun, just something for laughs.


eddie murphy as rasputia in "norbit"





martin lawrence as big mama in "big mama's house"





tyler perry as madea in "diary of a mad black woman"




but what's your take? do you just see this as humor or are you offended?

Roomies That Made Me Gloomy

the other day, i was thinking about some of the roommates i've had in the past. some were quite colorful...others were "regular" people. but its those wacky ones that really took the cake...

first there was *kayla.

she was a church girl who i'd known for seven years. she did not drink, do any drugs or have premarital sex. she went to church every sunday, prayed and read her bible daily and did not say curse words. kayla was great...except she kept the house filthy.

at first, she would stare at my bed decor and decorative do-dads in awe. i thought that was weird because we were young and i didn't have anything extravagant, but she thought everything i had/did was so fancy or beautiful. well, i figured out why when on the way to the bathroom one morning, i must have squashed about 20 cocoa puffs into the carpet. i was livid! i don't even eat cereal...but to have little crumbs all smushed into the floor was unacceptable. then i got to the sink and it was covered in hair and makeup debris. i couldn't even use it because i am weird like that. if someone else's hair or nail fragments are visibly strewn about, i will be overcome with the willies. kayla would leave all kinds of trash around, make-up plopped everywhere, and she shed like a friggin' puppy! all was lost when she began setting her alarm to blast the church music at an ungodly hour and would leave it on while she showered...all while i was asleep, or trying to be. needless to say, we didn't make it to year 2. one year was enough.

next there was *carrie and *sherrie. they were sisters i had been acquainted with for some years. carrie was my age and sherrie was 2 years older. the sisters were seemingly pleasant and clean so i thought all would be good. but after a few discussions about living together, carrie wanted to invite *gilda to live there as well. i didn't have a good feeling about gilda because i didn't know her and when i saw her, i was even more concerned. she was very odd looking and acting. she kinda looked like a malnourished vulture with dark, sunken in eyes and stringy hair.

she was very stand-offish but i was like whatev. i figured that since i was so busy, it wouldn't matter. immediately problems began. carrie started acting strangely and wouldn't speak to me. gilda never was nice. she would roll her eyes at me, walk right by and not speak and slam doors if i had friends over. all was lost when i had a gathering of sorts around thanksgiving. no one was there except me so i figured that it would be ok to have a few people over. we were having a great time and gilda walked in. she was there for all of five muntes and walked back out. 2 minutes later, there was a knock on the door. that hussy called the authorities on me! thankfully, my fabulousness won them over and there were no citations given, but i was irate. well, as soon as the police left, she walked back in and almost sprinted to her room locking the door. well, i sprinted after her giving her a piece of my mind. i kicked her door and told her that when i did see her, i was going to go upside that vulture-y face of hers so she'd better leave. well, she hid in there for hours and wouldn't come out so we all left. days later, gilda moved out.

we needed another roomie so we let this chick named *vickie take vulture's room. vickie was so sweet. she was from a small town and she was a fresh bumpkin off of the turnip truck. she was excited to be in a "real" city and she was a year younger than me and carrie. all was well for the first few weeks. then vickie started getting into the swing of things. she invited a lot of guys over. A LOT!

and i noticed a trend...they were all friends. sometimes, there would be two guy friends in her room with her. sometimes i would wake up and be walking around in my panties, only to have a mini-heart attack because some random dude would pop out of her room. needless to say, she was becoming a whore and what was worse, was that our address was associated with her whoredom. someone came to me one day and told me that our address was mentioned in the same breath as some freaky mentionings. i was disgusted. i told vikcie that she had to remove the fire from her tail or find somewhere else to live. we went back and forth and she hated me after that. she wouldn't speak to me and she met her callers elsewhere.

carrie became even more estranged and when the year was up, her sister explained to me that carrie hated me because of my hair. go figure! i thought she was mad because she sensed the tension between me and her friend the vulture....but just like a chick, she was an undercover hater. she was one of those color-struck chicks caught up in old school race issues. i laughed all over the place when sherrie told me that, then wished her well. that was the end of that.

***HAVE YOU EVER HAD A CRAPPY ROOMMATE??? OR HAVE YOU BEEN A CRAPPY ROOMMATE??? SHARE......***

The Pretty Spotlight: The Ipod Touch

dear ipod touch, i'm in love with you.

now i'm no techy, but this is such a fabulous accessory that i really had to post about it today. hubby got me the Ipod Touch and i have been enamored with it for a number of reasons. the touch screen is so easy to work (even the type pad) and the format for everything is so highly organized, that it has become my new personal assistant. for men and their big hands, i must say that the type pad is a little slim, but after a little while, anyone could get the hang of it. (i did watch a man in the store type away with no hassle but he had 3 weeks of working it). i love how you can scroll thru your music by album cover. the calendar is well organized with various views that are super swell and of course...it looks so cool!







i highly recommend this to anyone who needs some organizational help and a place for their music. you'll be surprised how you'll use all of the other functions like navigation, youtube, weather and all. oh, and don't be sassy like me and think you can be lazy and purchase a stylus for touching buttons because that does not work-lol! and of course, i had to dress mine in a snazzy pink leather cover. TOO CUTE!!








***WHAT WAS YOUR LATEST TECHNOLOGICAL PURCHASE??? DO YOU LOVE IT?? HATE IT??? WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE TO PURCHASE IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY???***

No Love At Dinnertime

ok guys...i know i can be quite the etiquette snob sometimes. i admit this. but i DO feel there are some things that are just inexcusable. as a young whippersnapper, i was raised to always be polite when at someone's house, especially if they prepared dinner. i was raised to eat whatever i was offered without the "ewwwwwwwwwww" and "i don't like that" unless it was something outrageously different like pig's feet or something. for instance, the first time i tried okra, i had never heard of it and i certainly did not enjoy the slimy texture, but the few little fried green monsters did not kill me. i just held my breath and swallowed...no biggie!

oh, but now as an adult, i take a little more offense to foods that are prepared when i am an invited guest. let's speak from my point of view...if i'm having a party or an event, i will usually take some type of inventory as to what people eat/like/enjoy. i will not serve solely according to my tastes and i will usually choose pretty neutral or calmer versions of dishes. WHY!?! because everyone does not like everything doused in hot sauce like you, or covered in salt, or topped with octopus. its just a consideration in my opinion.

so lately, i've run into some (imo, inconsiderate) hosts who have served me some of the most disgusting dishes EVER! and you'd never guess what they were...on one occasion it was macaroni and cheese and the other was lamb. what was the issue with these? well the mac and cheese had SUGAR in it. so much sugar that you couldn't even taste the cheese. this was an occasion where i had to politely cover my plate with my napkin and toss that crap. EVERYONE was wondering about the sweetness and finally someone asked why was it so sweet? the host said, i like sugar in my mac and cheese. um, YOU like that mess. that is not a "common" staple in the dish...its something you added cuz you have an 'interesting' palette...but by no means should you be serving it to a bunch of people. i understand adding a twist, but is it hard to keep the twist along the lines of the original recipe like perhaps adding another type of cheese to it...maybe a differet type of pasta besides the elbow macaroni....

then there was lamb. what irked me the most was that the host asked everyone if they liked lamb. i do not. well, lamb was prepared along with some other things so i wasn't tripping, until i saw they drowned a number of dishes in the lamb gravy. ok, if everyone does not enjoy lamb, why pour the juices on stuff? and it was bland to boot!!!!! UGH! so that blocked out an extra two dishes because they were sporting lamb cologne.

i really don't feel like i am being a prude on this one. i mean, who wants to have a party and have everyone complaining or tossing their food? or leaving hungry because you either did not have a diverse menu or considerations for other tastes? so unlike my childhood, i no longer stifle the disapproval that erupt from gross food. and while i won't stand up and throw my plate on the floor and make a scene...i will however, make a mental note of this occasion *hint, hint*

***WHAT HAS SOMEONE SERVED YOU THAT WAS SO GROSS OR OFF-THE-WALL THAT COULD HAVE BEEN GOOD IF THEY WEREN'T PLAYING SELFISH CHEF? DO YOU THINK PCD WAS RUDE TO NOT EAT THE DISHES? HAVE YOU EVER BEEN EXCITED TO EAT SOMETHING THAT LOOKED GOOD, BUT WHEN YOU BIT INTO IT, YOU DISCOVERED AN "EXTRA" INGREDIENT"? SHARE...........***

***amendment*** ok, i feel like this is right up the alley of what today's topic is. so my daughter had a play-date scheduled for today. and while the mother totally ruined what i had in mind, i agreed to still continue. i rearranged to oblige her suggestion and she JUST called to cancel. things happen...thats cool. but she literally called and said "i'm cancelling for today."

there was no explanation, no apology, no suggestion for a reschedule and i'm HOT! is it too much to say, "i need to cancel for today because i am really running behind with my other errands, and i'm sorry for calling at the 12th hour, but maybe we can do something on monday." IS THAT HARD? what is with the rudeness these days? i mean, you are being very last minute, but to top it off like that is so uncalled for. i'm at my limit with this mess....PCD is about to bloooooooooow!!

The First Time.........

.....i got a job, it was the worst job EVER!!! it was at a local grocery store. i was under age, so i had to get a permit signed by my parents. i was just excited because i had gotten my driver's permit and i liked driving myself to work (accompanied of course). but let me tell you about my duties...





i was a cart-girl. yes, a cart girl! they had me and my delicate self lining and pushing carts back into the building in the dead of summer. i highly objected to this so i had a fellow teen co-worker do my carts for me. in exchange, i let him eat lunch with me (hey, i was always fabulous! lol).



then one day, they bumped me up to check-out girl. the issue with this is that they sold beer in this store and you had to have a blue name tag (meaning over 18) to check beer. if you had a red one, you couldn't swipe it. so i witnessed a fellow teen co-worker asking the customer to simply pick up their beer and run it across the scanner. it was a simple solution because if you were a red-tagger, you had to stop everything, call for a manager and wait for them to come from wherever to swipe it and it pissed off the other customers.


most people were happy to swipe their own beer because no one liked waiting for who-knows to show up whenever to do something that took 1.3 seconds.






MOST people....well, of course i would run into a snooty older lady one day who had some beer. i was checking the express line and i knew that they people were really gonna be upset waiting in express so i asked her to swipe it. you would have thought i asked her to swipe her booty across the scanner the way she looked at me. so i explained to her why i asked and she became enraged telling me how i was insubordinate for suggesting such a thing. she folded her arms, shook her head and huffed and puffed asking to speak to the manager. i called for him and i was fine.....





....until she kept on whispering under breath. and all i caught wind of was "makes no sense," "can't believe", "outrage," and "these people" SKREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEETTT!!!!





REWIND! WHAT people? i can't really remember all i said...just a lot of "what", "old lady", who do you think you are?" "take this job and shove it", "!*&% B!*^#*# !(^#!*^" as i was floating right outside the exit doors. end of job.





***WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST OR WORST JOB? EVER RUN INTO SOME DRAMA ON SAID JOB? SPILL IT.........***

What's In A Pedicure?

ok, so someone i know has stopped going to get pedicures. the reason: "i don't like when they start speaking in their language...i feel like they're talking about me."





ok. i guess that's a valid point...except you don't know WHAT they're saying. so i asked, what is the solution? she says...going to an american place. ok, well i just have to say....while i don't believe that an american would sit there and say something negative about your feet while you are in the chair, could they not wait until you left to do the same thing? she says yes, but the difference is she wouldn't know it or hear it.






er, i'm confused again. you don't know what the korean woman is saying either. its just an assumption that she's saying something about you. and call me crazy, but there are cazillion nail shops that are run by koreans because this is one of their things. they do nails. they've probably seen every kind of foot, crust, corn, bunion, mangly-ness, burnt-osity, discolored, knotted foolishness that some people call feet...so they (in my mind) are more immune to it. i would feel (if i were my friend) more nervous about the americans because how many nail shops do you see run by them unless it' in a spa? not very many. so i would think they've ran across a lot less foot scenarios that would render a sniggle or comment necessary. i was really puzzled because i couldn't believe that she would stop indulging in one of her favorite me-time moments out of unconfirmed fear of foreign whispers.





then i felt bad. i guess i don't understand that type of insecurity so it made no sense to me. and her feet aren't even fugly...she just wears a larger size shoe. tell me, was i mean for trying to set her feelings about the situation aside and get her back in the toe game?





***DO YOU EVER FEEL SHY ABOUT YOURSELF OR ONE OF YOUR FEATURES WHEN IT'S TIME TO HAVE A STRANGER ADJUST IT FOR YOU...WHETHER IT'S NAILS, HAIR, A DOCTOR? I CAN SAY THAT I FEEL AWKWARD (NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES MY AESTHETICIAN DONE IT) ABOUT BRAZILIAN WAX TIME...NO MATTER HOW YOUR ORIGINAL SITUATION LOOKS, IT WILL ALWAYS BE WEIRD TO HAVE SOMEONE PUSHING, SHOVING AND SHIFTING YOUR COOTER AROUND WHILE RIPPING THE HOLY HOT DOG WATER LOVING FOLLICLES STRAIGHT FROM THE ROOT *ouch!* BUT WHAT I REALLY WONDER ABOUT IS HOW THEY CAN DO IT TO A BUNCH OF RANDOM PEOPLE CUZ WE ALL KNOW EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT...WHAT IF THEY RUN INTO A REALLY BAD VAJAYJAY? I JUST KNOW I COULDN'T DO IT...NOR COULD I TOUCH PEOPLE'S FEET (ok, that part was so off-topic, lol!)***

Tickling Your Fancy...With Friends

bonjour, mes amis! i hope everyone had a great mother's day/week/weekend!






its the time of year when we peel off the hats, scarves and boots...and slide into some sandals, flirty dresses and linen. and i, personally can't wait to go on my next GNO (girls night out). we typically like to go overboard with the fashion, and fabulosity....meaning we love to enjoy places that have great food, great ambiance and great people posing about. we never do anything casual on a GNO. we always decide to go somewhere flashy where dressing up is required. there's just something about putting on a slinky dress, fab heels with a perfect face and hair. LOVES IT!!!!!!!
















well, in a few days, we'll be venurting off to do our thing...but tell me,





***WHERE DO YOU LIKE TO GO WITH YOUR CIRCLE OF FRIENDS??? IS THERE A SPECIFIC PLACE YOU USUALLY VISIT? IS THERE A TYPE OF PLACE??? DO YOU HAVE A RITUAL OF MEETING AT THE SAME PLACE ON THE SAME DATE??? WHAT TICKLES YOUR FANCY WITH YOUR FRIENDS???***

PCD is Taking A Mother's WEEK!

sooooo, i just want to let my fellow circlers know that i have decided to turn this week into a complete mother's celebration extravaganza. instead of waiting for sunday, i just reserved the week for reflection on the weight gain, the weeble-wobbling, the heartburn, the backaches, the swollen hands and feet, gestational diabetes, sleepless nights, stretching, pulling, stitches, agony and pain...which all resulted in the miracle known as motherhood. and yes, i need a week for all that!



WISHING EVERYONE A WONDERFUL MOTHER'S DAY! AND IF YOU FEEL LIKE IT, TAKE THE WEEK TOO!!!







LOVE,

PCD

***i will be lurking you guys, just not posting here***

Lawd, Hold My...Wig!?!?

ok, so i watched this about 37 times trying to figure some things out.

1. i thought that when you wear wigs, you put at least one pin in it to ensure its stick-osity to your head

2. if you know you didn't help with the stickiness of said wig, perhaps you should not go flinging your head back...

3. ...in front of a camera...

4. ...and everyone in the church

5. the young lady approaching the pulpit looks to be in a hilarious fit of laughter as she's walking up there

6. she also looked like she was trying to control the laughter once she was up there

7. WHY was she just holding that wig up behind the lady as she continued her dance?

8. that made it more obvious that the wig was off. i mean, at least the lady's hair wasn't in thirteen braids with a stocking cap on her head. she actually had a nice amount of hair underneath the wig so if someone wasn't looking...they MAY NOT have grasped that a wig was missing...at first glance.

9. now that i think about it, i think that girl just wanted to be on camera

10. LOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Black or Right?

i am bothered that i am even at this crossroad...but i am having to decide (yet again) whether to try and support black or just get what i need done and handled properly. let's back up....





i used to be so bothered when i would drive through different neighborhoods and see how different cultures have pulled together to create businesses, and lifestyles from their own people, for their own people and with their own people. not bothered because of this...but bothered because rarely do i see clusters of black businesses and such. i USED TO be one to seek out black business with the intent of keeping my dollars black. i wanted to support. i wanted to enrich. i wanted to help upbuild those who had the foresight and ambition to start a business. i USED TO.





most of the time, i end up feeling like i'm trying so hard to befriend or support someone who doesn't care or even want to be bothered...like, I'M INFRINGING ON THEIR TIME AND RESOURCES WHEN SEEKING SERVICES FROM THAT INDUSTRY WHETHER IT BE FOOD, CUSTOMER SERVICE OR SPECIALIZED. i had a string of run-ins with bad attitudes when trying to spend my money. i ran into shotty jobs and half-done projects that took too long. i ran into a kitchen project that actually ended with me walking into my home to find a crew member taking a poop in my toilet and leaving potato chip bags on my bathroom floor. i decided to forget actively seeking black businesses and just go with the most professionally and appropriate candidate for whatever i needed at that time.





but every now and then i see where i can dip my foot back into the pool of black businesses....and as of late, i am regretting that i did. all i want is a dance class. i just want to enroll in a new dance class close to my home that has the dance style i'm interested in, a schedule that's flexible and is reasonably priced. i found one. it's owned and run by black women. i've reached out to them three times...once by email and twice by phone . i have YET to hear back from them. i need confirmation of very basic information....that being scheduling, price and such. i would also like a tour or to just peek in on a class in action. simple right? WRONG! it's been two weeks and i am livid!!!! mainly because this place is so conveniently close to my home that i really don't want to even look for another place. i almost felt like i would deal with whatever else just so i didn't have to go far. but i can't even get someone to answer the phone....let alone return a message or email.





it's turned me off in the worst way. i mean, while a dance class isn't a huge issue...it's something i was really wanting to do and while i am in the process of developing my summer schedule, i need to know my real options and obligations. and i believe whole-heartedly that you don't get a second chance to make a first impression. the impression i have now is terrible and i just wonder WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!?!?!?!?!?!





***DO YOU PURPOSELY TRY TO BUY OR SUPPORT BLACK BUSINESSES? HAVE YOU HAD ISSUES WITH THIS? WOULD YOU RATHER HAVE IT "BLACK" OR "RIGHT"?***